You can get more out of life by being courteous

“You can catch more flies with sugar than with vinegar.” Have you ever heard this saying before? The real meaning of this is that you can get more from people by being courteous and nice rather than being rude and obnoxious.

When you’re dealing with people, always remember that it is a person with blood flowing through them and not a machine. Therefore, they have emotions that can be appealed to. Everyone has a button, and blessed is the person that knows how to appeal to human emotions. Doors will just be opening for you.

Picture this. The boss needs some work done and tells his team, “Guys, don’t be so slow like you usually are. You know majority of you are not so smart and we need this contract.” Or the boss that says, “We need team work more than ever on this, there’s a lot at stake here and I’m counting on you all to make it a success because I know I have a solid team.” Of course, the team will be more eager to do the bidding of the second boss (except for some chronically lazy and irreparably lackadaisical people sha). Lol

Learn the basic courtesies.
Please, Thank you and I’m sorry. And use them appropriately.
You may be an introvert but you can still learn to greet people and exchange basic pleasantries. And even if you’re the boss, you’ll be building a hostile team if you don’t learn to be courteous to people.

And I don’t mean ‘ophthalmology’ – Where you’re only nice because you want favors. That is downright patronizing and most people can see through it even if they don’t comment on it. Give compliments (not false ones) and as much as possible, have an attitude that makes it easy to get along with people.

Finally, don’t be in that group that intentionally hurts and then feels that “sebi, it is just to say sorry.” Trust Nigerians, “sebi, he has said sorry.” Sorry doesn’t always make it right. If you go out of your way to hurt me, I will accept the apology (because omo jeje ni mi😁), but best believe I will stay far away from you and nothing you say can make me get close to you again apart from basic courtesies. My dad used to tell me and I paraphrase, “once bitten, twice shy, twice bitten, outright stupidity.”
And one thing I’m not, is stupid

We are in a world now where savagery seems to be the modus operandi especially on social media. Except you’re ‘bastardly’ rich and powerful, I assure you, that unnecessary savagery is not going to get you anywhere and you may even be losing several opportunities.

“You can get more flies with sugar than vinegar.” Whether in your personal or professional life. Do you have your hands coated in sugar? Or are they fully dipped in vinegar? Ask yourself this important question and do an introspection.

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