When you see children that have been raised in love and with kindness, it is always easy to know them. Be it a two parent or a single parent home. There’s this warmth and happiness they exude. People stay in unhealthy and visibly abusive relationship and they tell themselves it is for the kids. You’re not helping them. You’re damaging them and setting them up to become dysfunctional adults. There is no perfect relationship and I’m all for working things out. But if you have both tried consistently and it is not working out, please don’t damage those children with the kind of environment you’re raising them in. I listened to a radio show recently and a teenager called in about how his parents tumultuous relationship had destroyed a lot in him and he didn’t even know how to move on. The parents were separated, yet they were still co-parenting in a toxic way.
Fix up. For the sake of the children you claim to be staying together for. Or leave and co-parent in a healthy way. You owe the children that much. It is the responsible thing to do as a parent.