Is it nature or nurture?

The argument about whether nature or nurture is the most important about how a child turns out in life has been talked about repeatedly. Most people including me lean towards nurture. This is a component of all the factors especially environmental factors that the child is exposed to while growing up.

I was looking at myself and my siblings and I had an epiphany about nature and nurture in how an individual turns out. I am a perfect blend of my mum and dad, my brother is more like my mum and my sister is almost 100% my dad. My dad has been dead for over eighteen years and she was just two when he died so I can’t say she became like him from watching him. I still do some things and my mom tells me how familiar they are because it was typical of my dad to do them. My son sniffs his clothes (and other people’s own) even at three years. His father did exactly that while he was his age. This goes to show that nature too has a major role in the life of a child.

The reason why I’m bringing this to fore is the way people think when it comes to their choice of a life partner. Remember that your children’s genealogy is related to both yours and your spouse. Be deliberate when it comes to making a choice and open your eyes. The children will inherit traits from both of you. It may tilt towards one of you. Remember that it is in the formative years of children that it is easy to nurture them and raise them the way you want. Once they’ve passed this period, it becomes really difficult to change people. That is why I find it amusing when people are absent all the formative years of their child and they’re expecting some abracadabra later. I was still a teenager when my dad died years ago, yet his impact in my life is still so obvious.

Most times, the signs are usually there which we choose to ignore because we’re giddy with love. Part of love is self-love. Love yourself to the point that you are aware of the flaws of your prospective partner. People can change, but most times what we call change are things that have been obvious that we closed our eyes to.

What is better than one good thing? Two or three of it! Why not look out for traits of good nature and nurture in your partner? You’ll be glad you did!

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