Want to offer a genuine apology? Here’s how…

There are three steps to a genuine apology.
1. Stop hurting the person
2. Verbalize the apology
3. Take deliberate steps not to repeat the actions that caused the hurt.
“It was the devil/ise esu ni” is not part of those steps.
Nobody is infallible. In loving sometimes, pain accompanies it. Either intentionally or unintentionally. It is ensuring that we don’t become a repeat offender that is important. Recognize that we heal differently. Give your loved ones time to process that hurt. You cannot hurt someone and be dictating how they’ll forgive you. Don’t say, “at least I’ve apologized, what more does he want?”. That is a rotten entitlement mentality to another person’s forgivometer. (My people will say, iwo lo s’arinako fun ayan, o tun s’aferi fun adie). Yours is to offer a genuine apology and give love and forgiveness time to do its work.

Sometimes, an apology and being contrite is not enough. They forgive you but don’t heal from the hurt. The relationship you have never remains the same. Some people are wired that way. When they experience a deep hurt, they find it difficult to move on from it. And that’s okay too. Recognize that you may have to cut your losses and move on. Move on and reminisce on the memories you have made instead of becoming toxic towards each other. Some relationships are not meant to go all the way to forever.
As adults, we must learn to own up to our wrongdoings and remember there are consequences for our actions. Some of which may come with a lot of teeth gnashing and deep regrets. It is what it is. Learn from it and move on.

Even the devil is tired of your excuses.
He’s probably like, “for once in your life, can’t you just take responsibility for your actions? I’m getting tired of the whole load of crap you’re dumping on me friend”. And he calls you friend because greater is the devil that lives in some people than the one they keep blaming out there.
P.S…This does not apply to marriage/friendship alone.
If you ever hurt me and you want to apologize, once I hear “ise esu ni” especially for a repeat offence…
Me: 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡